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{December 23, 2009}   ODD That

a guest post by Sybil 

I’ve several friends here who on occasion peruse the trans sites just to stay abreast of the latest goings on. Recently they talked me into taking a tour myself! Hummm there certainly is a lot to pick from with sites and blogs aplenty these days! Yet for all the places I visited and they were many, I was left with this strange feeling of disconnection, discomfort and disorder 

The reason being, per the content all these various sites it seems I should be embracing these erstwhile writers and contributors as my sisters and brothers. You see as I discovered they are the stalwart faces of the activists out there representing “MY trans-community!” 

Community? uh! Trans-community, There’s a Trans-community? 

Well that’s all well and good I thought and bully for them! But l if I do in fact, as they say, belong to this “trans-community” I might just want to know a bit more about it… Is this a place, a philosophy, a way of life, a small town in Hazard County Kentucky? To get to my community, do I take I-90 west and turn left at the funny looking purple sign, or simply sit here at my desk and contemplate my navel?

 Not an issue you say, because I’m already there? Ok…. Well… sure I guess? You know, now that I’ve started asking questions bout “my community” it seemed I suddenly had a whole host of them begging to be answered! I mean, given that this community does not seem to have any physical local, then it must be something more metaphysical! Something along the lines of the Order of the Eastern Star or the Daughters of the American Revolution, both of which have asked me to join but to date have I’ve not done so. 

So if I did not join those groups or “communities if you will that asked me to, exactly when did I join this other one? I’ve certainly no memory of ever having joined up, or if I did join, the experience was yanked from my memory like a reverse Manchurian Candidate Operation. Sit right down here Sibyl, get yourself comfortable, put this aluminum foil helmet on and forget a-l-l about it!

 Now what was I saying?

 Oh yes, so… I belong to this “community,” I don’t know exactly what it is or where it is, or when I joined but according to the various writers I’ve read these past two days. I not only joined, but I it seems I can’t un-join either! Sheesh! So this community is some sort of life deal? Kinda like a metaphysical Amway or Mary Kay? Maybe that’s not so bad after all! I wonder? Does my membership come with a shiny pink Cadillac or some super duper cleanser?

 Back to the sites again! After all I want to make sure they’ve got the correct address to send my valuable prizes to! Alas, no pink Cadillacs or cleansers in my future coming with my membership in this community, but what about those I recruit? Sibyl’s face lights up with anticipation and a bit of greed! Do I get to share of their profits? Will I eventually move up the ranks into greater and greater wealth?

 Nope ! Not only do I not get paid for my own efforts or those of any I recruit (not sure how one is recruited exactly, but some one must), it seems there are no profits to be had at all! In fact, it seems by my belonging to this community, at least by what I’ve read so far. I can expect a life of penury and poverty if not total deprivation!

 Damn this is worse than being a member of Scientology! At least there if I get my Theta waves aligned and give all my money to the Great Shazzam! or what ever other rotating inter-dimensional being is in charge that week. My income will be returned doubled! Minus of course, any reasonable taxes, fees, surcharges, tariffs, gratuities and gifts that need to be taken care of.

 Ok so I belong to this community, I can’t un-join and I don’t get any cleansers and I will be poorer than used dirt because I’m a member. Maybe there was some other reason I joined? Maybe it’s because I realized I’d find greater safety and security within! Nope? Not to be?

 In fact, by joining this community is seems not only am I not safe now I’m at risk of life and limb. I’m nothing more than a sitting duck just waiting to be stalked and killed with the only question being as it’s happening. Will I be raped before I’m dead, or afterwards? If I get to pick afterwards sounds better to me!

 I really should have read the fine print before joining this community, but as I can’t really remember joining, perhaps I did read the fine print but forgot how utterly aghast I was along with any memory of the event. Oh well, at least from what I see, when I’m killed and raped my name will be read aloud on this annual day of remembrance thingie. I can at least be content and proud that I am a martyr to my “community!”

 No? The day of remembrance isn’t a real holiday? No one gets the day off to shop, over-eat or visit with relations they really don’t like? Whadda you mean! You are kidding right? Even in the few random church basements and bars where this day of remembrance is practiced. It will be mostly by members of another community who will be using this day of remembrance to celebrate THEIR losses and to raise funds for various and sundry projects for them? Only lastly, celebrating my inclusion (and ergo my sacrifice) for my community into their much better community as a subset? 

 It’s thinking this is not such a great deal for me if I’m a wanna be martyr! Is its too late to become Catholic and die by being eaten by lions in the Coliseum, It is? Seventeen centuries you say? Shoot! I miss all the good stuff!

 I tell you this really not looking good at all! Are you absolutely certain this community I belong to is not a physical place with barbed wire and machine-guns and surly guards hired to keep the members in? Are you for certain,  I mean are you really really certain? Who I ask, would in their right mind ever willingly belong to such a thing! Me apparently, as I have no memory of joining but member it seems I am.

 So quite befuddled and more that a little upset as I discover more and more about my community and what it means. Its back to the puter for answers. Instead I find its is going to go from bad to worse much worse! Seems as bad as it was I’m now going to experience life by being  pariah too!

 No decent person is ever going to want me to come to his or her parties. I will never find a man to marry. No one is going to address me in the feminine person. Everyone is going to call me sir unless I choose to wear a sign round my neck saying “call me a woman damn it” or I develop a very hang dog pathetic expression and cry lots, or I get that classic “don’t fuck with me cause I’m dangerous look.” And on top of that I’ve got to be to be butt ugly while doing it too!

 Know what’s worst of all? Not only will I be butt ugly but I’ll now have to shop for all my clothes at “The Dumpy and Out-of-Fashion Shops” or “Sluts are Us.” Bye-bye Channel suits, so long Prada, see ya well cut silks! Poorly draped and unflattering polyester double knit here I come!

 I’m really kinda wishing I hadn’t gotten out of bed this morning the way this whole community thing is turning out! Seems by my being having become a member of this community I can expect to be poor, rejected, raped and murdered and all done with no sense of fashion. Just who the heck did I piss off in the last life? I really wish I had some memory of when I joined all this! I really really do! Can’t I just say I’m sorry now for whatever I did and pass on all this? Please, pretty please with sugar on top?

 Wait you say; it gets worse! Just how the heck could it possibly get any worse? I’m going to be “a man” in an ugly dress, alone, unemployed, poor, with a crappy job, or more likely no job, a social pariah, no friends or family, and all the while. Simply waiting my turn to be raped and murdered, or was that murdered and raped, still fuzzy on that one.

 Tell me quick cause I really want to know! How could it possibly be worse?

 Oh I see, I’m going to want to commit suicide too? Well Damn right wouldn’t you? Stuck with this horrible community thing that I can’t un-join…. Who wouldn’t want to end it all? Heck, pass the kool-aid now please. Its time to lay back relax and wait for the mother ship!

 Ok, So I’ve been VERY glib about some very painful and tragic issues but there is a reason for doing so. The reason? To point out that for 99.9% of those members of this non-existent community they do, as I parodied, view it as un-joinable! For them, membership in this “trans community” was a life sentence, (if you can call it “life”) with no hope of parole.

 The irony of their“sentence” is the members of this community are both inmate and the jailer. Each and every one has the key to their own prison yet they all stay locked in a pathetic one man dance until at long last, and utterly exhausted, they exit this mortal coil. Far too often by their own hand or by others when the irony is they don’t have to do any of it!

 Let me illustrate. A few years back there was a very wise woman who on line went by the nom de plume of “Kate Grimaldi.”  A most excellent writer and observant woman who, in a conversation one day realized most, in discussing there things may be using the same words, but with very different meaning.

 The incident that triggered her brain storm was when she had referred to her own and another’s “passing.” By which she meant as not having been “read “in decades. Another to the conversation agreed that she too passed! As in, she had not been read in hours.

 Kate ever the mathematician put her keen intellect to the task and devised what she called the Step Phases Scale, or simply, The SP Scale, by which one could define with precision where on the line of transition one may be at.

 Below is the The SP Scale by Kate Grimaldi:

 SP 0 : No passing.

SP 1 : Pass in a crowd where no one is paying much mind. The mall or a busy street. Little person-to-person interaction.

SP 2 : Pass with sustained person-to-person interaction; at a bank, with a waiter, with a sales clerk, or a person at a bar (who is not a “chaser”) who flirts with you.

SP 3 : You get that person home and you go to “heavy breathing”, and still they accept your womanhood.

SP 4 : [A tricky one to define]. Sustained acceptance of womanhood. The other party, after three weeks, three months, or three years, does not suddenly have it dawn on them that you were once a boy. No “benign clocking”, as Debbie dubbed it. No people who say, “Ohhhh. Nowwwwwwwwww I get it. I won’t say anything though. She’s so nice and she tries verrrrrrrrrry hard and almost succeeds. Her secret is safe with me as I will never tell, even her that I know. After all, poor thing, I’d break her heart and I do like her so.” Or from the Twelfth Night by Shakespeare when the jester, Feste, says something like, “I profit from my enemies and am abused by my friends.”

SP 5 : Your past, as you remember it, is that you see a female in your mind’s eye, even though you know for sure that you were not trying to be one. For example, I remember myself as female in high school even though I can see from the photographs that I was hardly that.

SP 6 : I am GG. (Kate’s short hand for “Genetic Girl” or as it tends to be called now “Natal”) You realize you were a woman trying to be a man — like Viola in Shakespeare’s Twelfth Night — only it was an act. The real you has been female all along, and you, of course, knew that all along… but you see how it was a GG doing all those things along the way. Not just a recollection (as in SP 5) of being a female doing it, but a layer deeper at SP 6, seeing the femininity colored those actions and not a “male upbringing” and how little you really know of men.

Appendum, written by “Cynthia” (a friend and acquaintance of Kate):
The SP levels are really about looking at yourself and seeing just how well you can pass. If you walk down the street in the city, do people see a woman? (SP1) If you go shopping and talk to clerks and salespeople, do they see a woman? (SP2) If you flirt with a guy (or girl) and rush to a hotel room for a passionate hour, does he (or she) still experience you as a woman? (SP3) If you make friends and hand out a lot and they don’t know your history, will they still witness you as a woman 3 months later? (SP4) When you look back on your childhood and youth, do you see yourself as female in those memories, a girl doing all those things? (SP5) Without thinking, without taking a political stance, do you see yourself as GG? (SP6)

The point of my parody and introducing the SP Scale (btw it does not happen in a linear fashion) is there really is no such creature as a “trans community!” We the TS had a birth defect. To correct it we had to start down a path that is called Transition.  A path, which has both a beginning and more importantly, it, has an end.

 We started out at SP 0 when the distress at living a lie reached the point of do or die. Then we progressed step by step, one through five, down the path eventually and to our own surprise ending up at SP 6 when we had moved from transition into the world of women where all this is nothing more than just a bad dream.

 When Kate proposed her scale, rather than being met with exclamations of joy at all now having definition and set markers, she was met with howls of anger and protest! Most of which boiled down to the exact same thing. “ if it exists at all well maybe you can, but I can’t, I can’t I can’t!”

 I’m here to say, you can! I’ve done it and I know others who have. We are proof positive that it is possible to progress, to move on, to reach for and grasp the brass ring… But, and this “but” is key, if one has any hope to succeed. One has to let go of the old way of life… entirely!  Doing anything else, no matter how hard you may have worked for something new, no matter how many surgeries you had or money you spent. All you have created in your life is the inescapable mind of trans.”

 Choose that path and you will be self-exiled into a place where you are neither the old, nor the new; no longer a man, and still, not yet a woman. A place from which this community, or rather the idea of such a thing springs forth.  A community that is nothing more than a self-imposed and self-created ghetto! A place chosen because it is apart from the rest of society. A place to hang with the other battle scared survivors and lick wounds the world handed you and still hands you. Believe me, in this process of transition, the world hands then out freely and aplenty!

 Still it is up to you to be in this community or not!  Not by a choice of transition. That is a fixed entity unless one considers Hobson’s choices to be a real. No, choice enters the picture as the wounds are handed out.

 Your choice is; either to collect them, hold them to your breast, nurture them, categorize them, and exalting them until at last they become the center of your life where they become the excuse why you can go no further and so, must live in the ghetto of trans. Or, you can do as others have, take each wound as it happens, deconstruct it, see what went wrong and set about making sure it never happens again. If the choice for the latter is made, when you have that step mastered, you move onto the next, and the next and the next. Until a quiet day arrives, and as you go about your daily life, you turn, in a moment of retrospection and realize, none of those issues are in anyway relevant to your life now.

 To my way of thinking that seems a much better choice to make than being part of some creepy community where you gotta wear clothes from “The Dumpy and Out-of-Fashion Shops!”

 Sibyl



 Reproduced with permission. Kristine lays the issues out far clearer and accurately than I ever could. However this is the sort of  issue I had in mind when I wrote the previous essay. 

THE CONUNDRUM OF SAME-SEX TRANSGENDER MARRIAGE

 To the best of my knowledge, the issues discussed are still relevant in Pennsylvania, where I practice.  However, in New Jersey and other jurisdictions where same-sex marriage and/or civil unions are now recognized, the issues are moot.  Such jurisdictions are in the minority, however.

KRISTINE W. HOLT

I. 

Within the last half-decade, innumerable heated discussions have taken place within the transgender community regarding laws prohibiting same-sex marriages and the legal status of married transsexual or transgendered[1] spouses.[2] It is generally acknowledged that, with few exceptions, marriages between post-operative[3] transsexuals and differently-sexed spouses[4] are validly entered into.[5] The marriage of a post-operative transperson to a same-sexed spouse is less certain.[6] There are two ways in which such same-sex marriages might come about: either by direct marriage between two women, one a transwoman and one a natal woman, or by the transition of one spouse already in a different-sex marriage from male to female without divorce.[7] It is the latter type of marriage with which this article is concerned.

 While the general consensus of the transgender community is that such marriages remain valid post-SRS, the truth of this consensus has yet to be proven definitively in any court. More recently, a small but outspoken group of transgender activists[8] have suggested that same-sex marriage laws might be successfully challenged using the transgender marriage as a model.[9] This proposal has not been universally accepted within the community; factions of supporters and detractors seem split along lines of sexual orientation.[10]

 Such a proposal, considered from an assimilationist point of view, is ill-conceived because it sets transgendered persons apart as a “special class” entitled to differential treatment and thus further marginalizes this already marginalized class. For the transgendered person who wishes nothing more than to blend in to society and lead an unremarkable life, such a “privilege” is in reality a bane. As a matter of policy for the transgender community, such a legal tactic should be rejected.

 II. 

1 A. The Playing Field 

Progress in the medical sciences since 1953, when the sexual transition of Christine Jorgensen first garnered media attention, has far outstripped the progress seen from Hippocrate’s era until then. Each advance has called for a reevaluation of our laws and public policies. Abortion, organ donation, cloning, euthanasia — these, and a host of others, have all impacted society in a way that demands response from our courts and legislatures. Perhaps the most dramatic advance in recent medical science, one that regularly receives sensationalist and lopsided coverage whenever discussed in the popular media, is also one that may have the most subtle but nevertheless revolutionary impact on how the law treats one of society’s most fundamental institutions. That institution is marriage, and the medical marvel is transsexual sexual reassignment surgery. 

Sexual reassignment surgery (SRS) has been a viable option for transsexual individuals only since the early 1930s.[11] However, early surgical procedures were expensive and left much to be desired in the way of functionality. As surgical techniques improved through the 1960s and 1970s, satisfactory reassignment became a reality for virtually anyone who qualified and planned wisely. The list of surgeons certified by various aesthetic surgery boards to perform SRS numbers well into the hundreds in North America alone, and SRS over 1,500 surgeries are performed yearly[12] in large American cities and small towns.[13]  

Standards of care regarding the treatment of transsexual patients were adopted by the medical community in 1980.[14] Such standards were promulgated in response to the growing demand for SRS and the concomitantly growing threat of liability to health care providers for negative surgical outcomes and inadequate psychological support for the patient in preparation for surgery. Prior to the adoption of the standards of care, most surgeons and psychiatrists required their transsexual patients to obtain divorces from their spouses (if they were married) before SRS would be performed.[15] After the passage of years, the requirement that transsexual patients divorce their spouses is one that is less adhered to.  

While it is not necessarily common, it is not completely unusual to find a partner in a heterosexual marriage (most often, the husband) changing sex while the marriage remains intact.[16] In most states, successful completion of SRS is the basis for a legal change of sex.[17] The resultant marriage that such a transsexual person may be a part of becomes, 1 de facto, a same-sex marriage. Such marriages have yet to be confronted by the courts. However, when they do, as they eventually will, they promise to stretch public policy beyond the point where judicial precedents may comfortably take it. 

1 B. The Players’ Dilemma 

This article is based upon a real-life example illustrating the issues that arise when a married person changes her sex. I was contacted by an acquaintance who sought my input into a problem she was experiencing. She had just begun a job the previous month and had submitted all the necessary documents her employer required so as to provide her insurance benefits, tax withholding, etc. She presented state and federal documentation that showed her to be female, but also presented an out-of-state birth certificate showing her to be male; she declared herself to be a post-transition transgendered woman, although she had yet to complete SRS. She was subsequently contacted by her employer’s benefits department and questioned as to the dependent she had listed on her health plan — her wife. She explained that hers was a legal marriage, that it had been entered into when she was a male, and that she was now female. The functionary responded by asserting that the employer did not recognize same-sex marriages. When my acquaintance just as forcefully asserted that hers was indeed a legal marriage, legally entered into and never dissolved or annulled, the departmental reply was to question her sex. In the administrative mind, it was inconceivable that two females could be legally married to each other. 

It was at this point she contacted me. We explored her options and the likely consequences of her actions for some time. We concluded that, because she was pre-SRS, the legal standing for the validity of her marriage was stronger than the legal standing for her female status; she decided to declare herself to her employer as a male for the present, until she completed SRS. We waxed philosophically after that and ruminated over what might happen if a husband remained married to his wife after legally changing status from male to female. Our discussion led to two possibilities: either the state would be forced to recognize same-sex marriages (and recognize non-transsexual as well as transsexual same-sex marriages because of equal protection considerations), or the courts would declare that persons born of one sex must legally remain that same sex throughout life. The former possibility seemed very unlikely, and the latter was very undesirable in my eyes. We resolved to think no further on the matter. 

I did think further on the matter, however. My thoughts at that point were not new. The idea of a married transgender couple challenging various state and federal laws prohibiting same-sex marriages is one that appeals to a sizable number of transgender activists. I concluded, however, the zeal with which some proponents of this approach advocate their positions belies a full understanding of the consequences should the tactic go awry. The unassailable reality is that legislatures have almost universally declared state and national public policies to be unremittingly opposed to same-sex marriage.[18] The legal status of post-SRS and other transgendered individuals is much more precarious, though; given a choice, it is not difficult to determine the outcome of a showdown between transgender marriage litigants and mainstream society. 

The more I thought on this puzzle, though, the more I desired to reject both results — particularly the most inevitable outcome, which would have a devastating effect on the transgender community. It slowly occurred to me that one might avoid the product of this algebra if one removed just one basic assumption from the equation: that the state cannot dissolve a legal marriage without the consent of at least one party to the marriage. This assumption has driven transgender legal theorists in their desire to challenge same-sex marriage laws, and has in a like manner fed the woeful conclusions of the opposition. Yet, it is an assumption that may not withstand the transsexual challenge. 

1 C. The Assimilationist View  

This article is an attempt to expound my speculative ruminations on transsexuality and the institution of marriage. I will seek to explain, with appropriate legal precedents, my belief that transgender challenges to laws banning same-sex marriages will not achieve recognition of such marriages. Such challenges will, instead, lead either to a greater governmental supervision over and intrusiveness into marriage, or to the effective diminution and further marginalization of the transgender community itself. 

A caveat is in order, however. The arguments set forth here are philosophically based upon an assimilationist approach to transgender inclusion in the greater society. This approach is grounded on the premise that the greatest goal of the transgendered individual is to live as full and happy a life as possible in the chosen gender role. Assimilation in this manner necessitates recognizing (although not necessarily embracing) many of the prevailing notions of gender and the interactions between the sexes existing in mainstream society. Such an approach is sometimes denigrated by activists as “woodworking,” “closeting,” or even “the politics of shame.” Yet, the philosophy of assimilation need not be characterized in such terms.  

An assimilationist need not deny her past as a member of the opposite sex and seek to blot it out by any means possible. She may be “out” to family and close friends, yet remain “closeted” to mere acquaintances, coworkers and strangers. Or, she may choose to live unashamedly but quietly “open” to a different degree, revealing herself to those who sincerely query her or when circumstances demand it (such as, for instance, when a bar application asks whether she has been known by another name) Regardless of one’s level of “quiet outness,” however, one need not dwell in shame over one’s past; one accepts it and gets on with life in the present.[19] Such a philosophy does not run counter to those who advocate an “open pride” in one’s transgender status.[20] 

The application of assimilationist philosophy to transgender marriage is, therefore, an obvious one. Assimilation means recognizing many of the prevailing social mores, including those that deny the validity of same-sex marriage. This is not to say that the assimilationist must wholeheartedly agree with those mores, but instead acknowledges their existence as a reality that governs her life. Recognizing that same-sex marriage is currently an impossibility leads the transwoman lesbian to recognize that she may not marry the partner of her desires — just like cisgendered[21] lesbians.[22]

 As previously noted, the heart of the assimilationist model is the desire to “be like everyone else,” i.e. the vast majority who do not change their sex or gender. Part of the assimilation is recognizing that gay or lesbian couples are not permitted to marry. An argument for same-sex marriage in the transgender context, based on the exigencies of the transgender experience, is tantamount to a call for “special rights” and a recognition of the “otherness” of the transgender experience. Such a call runs counter to the assimilationist model, and must be rejected.

 III.  

The dilemma of the transsexual marriage goes far beyond the grant of employee benefits to same sex spouses. In many cases, the transsexual partner has served in the armed forces and has benefits that accrue to her wife by dint of marriage. Additionally, social security benefits are transferable from one spouse to another in a legal marriage. Congress has acted to forestall these marriage benefits to same-sex partners, though, by passage of the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), DOMA states that,

 In determining the meaning of any Act of Congress, or of any ruling, regulation, or interpretation of the various administrative bureaus and agencies of the United States, the word ‘marriage’ means only a legal union between one man and one woman as husband and wife, and the word ’spouse’ refers only to a person of the opposite sex who is a husband or a wife.[23] 

In challenging this and similar state statutes by using the transgender marriage model, transgender activists seek to overturn the public policy against same-sex marriage.  

Much of the underlying rationale for applying the transgender experience to same-sex marriages is embodied in the “transgender test for same-sex marriage.”[24] The “test” looks to the consequences of divorce. If a couple divorces either prior to or after one spouse changes sex and can later remarry, then no same-sex marriage is deemed to exist. However, if the couple could not later remarry, then a same-sex marriage exists. The outcome of such a test necessarily varies from jurisdiction to jurisdiction, and relies on whether the relevant jurisdiction acknowledges sex change as valid.[25] The fact that most jurisdictions have no clear policy on whether an individual can change her sex, linked with the fact that such policies are often set in the context of marriage disputes, poses the greatest threat to the transgender community.  

Three possible outcomes may ensue from the transsexual challenge to same-sex marriage laws: 1) same-sex marriage may be declared 1 de facto legal in the transsexual instance and expanded to embrace homosexual cisgendered unions; 2) the newly acquired legal gender status of transsexual persons may be declared void, preserving the marriage as heterosexual and creating a host of other legal problems for the transsexual individual; or 3) (and this is the focus of this article) the courts may declare a marriage dissolved at the instant the transsexual partner crosses that legal line between male and female. Each of these possible outcomes has a different likelihood of success and will have different impacts on the transgender community and society as a whole. 

In the first case, it is extremely unlikely the courts would recognize a same-sex marriage between two females, regardless of how the marriage was initiated. The question of whether to recognize a same-sex marriage has been declared a public policy question, and the legislatures, in the federal and numerous state jurisdictions, have spoken loudly and clearly: same-sex marriage will not be recognized.[26] As with most public policy questions, the courts are loath to assume jurisdiction over the issues presented. When presented with a de facto same sex marriage, declaration of its validity is least likely; the courts will seek some other solution to the dilemma before defining public policy judicially. Therefore, the remaining possibilities are most likely to be relied on. 

The scenario by which sex-change is declared void is one that has been witnessed in the courts, albeit in different contexts. Different jurisdiction produce different results. As it presently stands, most jurisdictions recognize the validity of sex-change, although this recognition is rarely codified by statute. In most instances, new legal gender status is conferred administratively, by regulation or general policy, and has only occasionally been affirmed by judicial decree. In the few jurisdictions that do not recognize sex-change, statute or judicial order provide guidance. In either instance, the case law reflecting the status of the transsexual individual remains conflicting. It would seem that a challenge to an institution as sancrosanct as marriage would serve to tip the scale of precedence against recognition of sex-change and subsequently precipitate an avalanche that would cascade through other important legal areas affecting the transsexual individual. The possibility of this outcome is high and, although the impact on society as a whole would be minimal, the devastation to the transgender community would be complete.[27] 

The third possible outcome of a transsexual challenge to same-sex marriage laws is one that has been cursorily discussed and dismissed out of hand by transgender activists.[28] It casts aside one of the prevalent assumptions in the transgender community that the state cannot dissolve a marriage that was valid at the time it was entered into without the consent of at least one of the partners to the marriage. It involves a synthesis of law relating to the definition of marriage, case law dealing with divorce, void and voidable marriages, and issues of consent. While it is difficult to determine the likelihood of this particular outcome prevailing under a transsexual challenge, the results are somewhat predictable: it would mark an increased intrusion of the government into the institution of marriage, giving overriding consideration to public policy in matters affecting basically private concerns. On the reverse of the same token, the transsexual community would be little affected, apart from the actual litigants themselves. 

Our opening scenario, taken to its logical conclusion, provides us with a means by which the questions surrounding transgender matrimony may be examined. In the case of my acquaintance, she was pre-SRS, and although her official documentation showed her to be female, she would still be considered a male for many legal purposes.[29] It has been the case that a married couple remains married even after one partner completes the physical transition from one sex to the other. In most jurisdictions, the formerly male partner will now be considered female for all legal purposes. It is this scenario that presents us with a bona fide same-sex marriage. Each of the three possible results of a legal challenge to such a marriage is examined in turn. 

1 A. Same-Sex Marriages Declared Legal 

Public policy is overwhelmingly set against recognition of same-sex marriages. As the status of the Hawaii same-sex marriage case[30] became popularized, legislative reaction was swift. The federal legislature acted by enacting DOMA, which defines marriage as “the legal union between one man and one woman as husband and wife,”[31] and disallows recognition of same sex marriage for purposes of spousal benefits under tax law, social security, etc.[32] DOMA also contains a provision which seemingly abrogates the “full faith and credit” clause of the United States Constitution,[33] and allows states to refuse to recognize a same-sex marriage performed in other jurisdictions if it runs counter to that state’s public policy.[34] Responding to this provision, numerous states rushed to pass their own DOMA-type laws, each declaring that state’s public policy to recognize marriage as a union between “one man and one woman.” Despite the fact that Hawaii (or Alaska[34]) has not yet recognized same-sex marriage as valid, the “rush to public policy” of other jurisdictions has set the stage for many different challenge, among them, the transsexual challenge. 

Courts have traditionally been reluctant to rule on controversies implicating public policies, whether overtly declared as such or not. As a result, in areas as diverse as securities regulation[36] and abortion,[37] courts have deferred in their judgments to legislative declarations of what the public policy is, whether the legislature has expressly declared the public policy or not. In the case of same-sex marriage, public policy has been unquestioningly declared: such unions are invalid under federal law, and states are given free rein to declare such unions invalid within their jurisdictional powers.

 The judicial challenge to same-sex marriage statutes and policies most likely to be successful is regarded as being on the constitutional front, that is, same-sex marriage policies may be declared void because they are unconstitutional. Such challenges have been brought on the state level with positive results. In one instance, it is argued that denying marriage on the grounds that both partners are of the same sex is violative of state constitutional prohibiting discrimination on the basis of sex. Such tactics were used in 1 Baehr v. Lewin.[38] Another argument is one based on fundamental rights, i.e., that the right to choose one’s life partner is fundamental. This is the tactic used in Alaska in1  Brause v. Bureau of Vital Statistics.[39] In both cases, the court was asked to examine the state policy under a strict scrutiny standard. The court acquiesced, and declared that the state must demonstrate a compelling interest served by prohibiting same sex marriages. Both cases are still in litigation and are unresolved.

 Even should individual state courts determine same sex marriages valid within their jurisdiction, this will not necessarily translate to an across-the-board national recognition of same-sex marriage, nor does it assure that the benefits of marriage enjoyed by a same-sex couple in their own jurisdiction will follow them to other jurisdictions. At issue here is the abrogation of the “full faith and credit” doctrine when considering public policy and same-sex marriage. 

The course of discussion within the gay community at large regarding the “full faith and credit” clause revolves around the wording of the DOMA and the constitutional provision itself. Section 2, of the Act, entitled “Powers Reserved to the State,” amends 28 U.S.C. § 1738, by adding section (c), which states: “No State, territory, or possession of the United States, or Indian tribe, shall be required to give effect to any public act, record, or judicial proceeding of any other State, territory, possession, or tribe respecting a relationship between persons of the same sex that is treated as a marriage under the laws of such other State, territory, possession, or tribe, or a right of claim arising from such relationship.”[40] While proponents of same-sex marriage argue that this provision violates the “full faith and credit” provision of the Constitution,[41] opponents refer to the second sentence of the provision as empowering the legislature’s enactment: “And the Congress may by general Laws prescribe the Manner in which such Acts, Records and Proceedings shall be proved, and the Effect thereof.”[42] Whereas divorces have been held to be judgments that other states must generally recognize,[43] marriages themselves have not been declared as such.  

Different jurisdictions have different laws regarding what constitutes a valid marriage. Many of the differences revolve around age and consanguinity considerations. Generally, marriages entered into in one jurisdiction are recognized by other jurisdictions, even if those marriages would not otherwise be permitted. in the host jurisdiction.[44] On occasion, however, one state will refuse to recognize a marriage performed in another jurisdiction.[45] It is entirely unclear how the court’s would rule on a case challenging section 2 of DOMA, even assuming any state may decree same-sex marriages legal. But, given the strength of public policy expressed in the statute (and in numerous state statutes purporting to refuse to recognize a same-sex marriage performed outside those states), it would not be surprising to see the court back that policy, and find that the Congress was empowered to act as it did. 

It has been suggested by some commentators that one solution to the dilemma of same-sex transgender marriages might be to declare that transpeople might be permitted to marry a person of either sex.[46] Such a solution, however, raises Constitutional issues of its own. Permitting transgendered people to marry persons of either sex would have the effect of creating a class of persons who are granted special privilege to not abide by state marriage laws. It is difficult to see how such a privilege would withstand Constitutional challenge. Moreover, from a political perspective, this privilege would serve to further set transgendered people apart as a distinct class. While it is true that a person granted such privilege need not necessarily exercise that privilege, the mere existence of the possibility will not fail to be noticed by those who already view transgendered people in a negative light. Ergo, from the assimilationist position, this solution is undesirable and should be resisted.  

1 B. Transgender Status Declared Void 

The second possibility considered by many in the transgender community is that the courts may declare transgender marriages valid, but concomitantly declare that the transgendered spouse never actually changed her sex. In contrast to the first possibility, this alternative presents a real likelihood of occurring — precedents from related cases supporting this argument have already been established. The effect of this type of decision on the transgender community would be devastating.  

Under the assimilationist model, the goal of most transgendered individuals is to slip into their new life as their new sex in as unobtrusive a manner as possible. Legal documentation is crucial to that goal. A transwoman forced to identify herself legally as a male is foreclosed from many activities and privileges enjoyed by cisgendered women, perhaps most importantly for the heterosexually identified transwoman, the right to marry a man.[47] The end goal of transition, fraught as it is with emotional struggle, extensive medical intervention and financial burden, would be for naught.

 Established case law suggests that it would not be improper for a court to declare sexual transition null. As it stands, only ten states provide statutory law permitting one to change one’s legal sex designation after completing SRS.[48] In most jurisdictions, the process is informal, depending on no more than agency policy and interpretation of regulations to accomplish the goal. 

The principle case supporting the “no sex-change” doctrine is 1 In re Ladrach,[49] a probate court case from Ohio. In 1 Ladrach, a post-operative transwoman and a man applied for a marriage license and were denied. In rendering its decision, the court eschewed persuasive rulings from sister jurisdictions[50] and relied instead on British common law. Citing 1 Corbett v. Corbett[51], the 1 Ladrach court stated,

There was no evidence that applicant at birth had any physical characteristics other than those of a male and he was thus correctly designated “Boy” on his birth certificate. There also was no laboratory documentation that the applicant had other than male chromosomes. There has been nothing shown to this court to cause it to change the existing Ohio law. Therefore, the application of Elaine Frances Ladrach to obtain a marriage license as a female person is denied.[52]

 Thus, Ladrach’s proposed marriage to her fiancee was a marriage between two men, a union disallowed in Ohio.

 The effect of 1 Ladrach is that, in Ohio, a transgendered individual may not marry an individual she and the rest of society perceives to be of the opposite sex.[53] The transwoman’s goal of unobtrusively assimilating into society as a member of her new gender and sex is barred.

 As Leane Renee notes in her discussion of transgender marriage issues, “transsexuals with a valid birth certificate generally marry without incident. In most cases, judges only step in to deny transsexual identity when the marriage is challenged after-the-fact.”[54]. This is the precisely the scenario proponents of the transgender challenge to same-sex statutes advocate: precipitating a legal challenge to a same-sex transgender marriage and asserting that the state cannot unilaterally sunder the bond, so it must be recognized. The track record of cases dealing with transgender marriages in general does not support the proposition that any court will look kindly on a same-sex transgender union.

 1 C. Transgender Marriage Declared Void 

In contrast to the aforementioned arguments, a third alternative exists — that the courts may determine that the same-sex marriage is unlawful and that the legal status of the transgendered spouse is valid, but that the former marriage is void. Acceptance of this alternative requires one to dispose of the assumption underlying the reasoning of the first two alternatives, i.e., that the state may not unilaterally dissolve a marriage legally valid at its inception against the express wishes of the spouse involved. Once one is disabused of this notion and recognizes that states can — and, in fact, do — unilaterally dissolve valid marriages, one can see a solution to this dilemma that, while negatively impacting on the litigants themselves, does not run counter to public policy nor threaten the basic goals of the transgender community.

 Distinguishing between 1 voidable and 1 void marriages is central to understanding how a state can unilaterally declare a marriage invalid. A 1 voidable marriage is one that is facially flawed, but one wherein the defect can be corrected and the marriage preserved. The most common type of voidable marriage is one in which one or both partners are below the legal age of consent. Most jurisdictions that prohibit underage marriages provide that, should both parties reach legal age and reaffirm the union by continuing to cohabitate as husband and wife, the voidable marriage is converted into a valid marriage and is thereafter unassailable on those grounds.[55] Generally, only a party to a voidable marriage has standing to challenge the validity of such a marriage, provided the defect has not been cured. 

In contrast, a 1 void marriage is one that contains a defect that cannot be cured; it is void from its inception and cannot be enforced.[56] A prime example of a void marriage is one in which the parties are prohibited from marrying because of relationship, i.e., siblings, descendants, or, in some jurisdictions, first cousins. A void marriage may be declared a nullity by judicial process or, in some jurisdictions, may be treated as null without process. Generally, and in contrast to voidable marriages, a void marriage may be challenged collaterally by parties other than the involved spouses.[57] 

States that prohibit same-sex marriages generally do so by considering them void and would logically subject them to provisions controlling other void marriages as defined within that jurisdiction. Obviously, then, an alleged marriage entered into by two males or two females would be void 1 ab initio, that is, from its inception, and would never be enforced within that jurisdiction.[58] Quite as obvious, then, would be the fact that a transgendered individual who successfully and legally attains a change of sex cannot afterward legally marry a partner of the same sex as her new sex. This is the core rationale underlying the “transgender test for same-sex marriage” mentioned above. The dilemma the married transgendered spouse faces is that when her marriage was entered into, it was a facially valid and unassailable union. The question thus presented is whether the state can declare an initially valid marriage invalid once that marriage subsequently enters into the bounds defining void marriages. Precedence suggests the answer to this question is “yes.” 

In all jurisdictions, a marriage is declared dissolved upon the death of one of the spouses. While this may seem only sensible, the concept become fuzzier when one considers the effect of “civil death.”[59] In Maine, for instance, a marriage is considered “void and dissolved” 1 by operation of law and without resort to process once a spouse is committed to a life sentence in prison.[60] In this instance, civil death may be considered equivalent to actual death, with the same final effect on marital status.[61] It is this “operation of law” principle that holds the key to resolution of the transgender marriage. 

Each of the states that prohibit same-sex marriage generally do so by defining marriage as being the legal union of “one man and one woman.”[62] Any union falling outside these definitions is 1 by definition not a marriage, whatever else it may be. Early challenges to same-sex marriage statutes foundered upon this principle.[63] So too, then, will the transgender same-sex marriage founder. 

People do not undergo sex-change procedures involuntarily, fantasy assertions to the contrary.[64] For instance, men who are castrated by accident or because of medical need do not automatically assume female identities as a result.[65] Pursuant to the assimilationist view, each person who voluntarily makes the transition from one sex to the other does so with full knowledge of the expectations and restrictions society places on each sex. Part of that knowledge is necessarily the recognition that same-sex marriages are not yet permitted in any jurisdiction on Earth. By changing her sex, the transgendered member of a marriage 1 voluntarily moves her union with her spouse outside the definition of what constitutes a valid marriage. A court would be well justified, then, in declaring that, 1 as an operation of law, the marriage became void at that instant when the transgendered spouse accomplished her legal transition.  

If prevailing law permits a void marriage to be treated as such without process, the spouse of a transgendered individual may be justified in considering the union dissolved and simply walking away from it. Depending on the jurisdiction, though, she may be required to petition the court for a declaration of invalidity. Or, as sometimes happens, she may wish to stand by her spouse and consider the marriage intact. Absent outside interference, such a marriage may remain intact. The mutual desire of both partners to maintain the union does not protect it from attack, however. Void marriages can be challenged collaterally.  

The scenario described at the beginning of this section provides an illustration of how such a marriage might be challenged collaterally and voided. Suppose our post-SRS employee seeks to have her wife placed included in her benefits plan at work. Or, perhaps she seeks Veteran’s or Social Security benefits for her wife. In either case, the request may be denied under the argument that, since same-sex marriages are not recognized, her wife is not a legal spouse eligible for benefits. Our transwoman has two options: she can accept the rejection or she can challenge it. If she chooses to challenge it, the administrator may well challenge the validity of the marriage as an affirmative defense to the denial, arguing that because both spouses are the same-sex the marriage cannot be considered valid. Should the controversy ever reach the judicial system, the court may rule just that — the marriage is invalid, by operation of law. The result would be that the transgender marriage would cease to exist, although the legal status of the transwoman herself would persist. While this would be a negative outcome for the particular couple involved, the public policy of society at large would be preserved, as would the needs of the transgender community.

 V.   

From an assimilationist point of view, a challenge to same-sex marriage laws is fraught with possibly devastating consequences on the transgender community. However, should such a challenge be mounted, one outcome might be one where the legal sexual status of the transgendered partner to such a union is held intact but the marriage itself is voided. This result would affirm the stated social policy of prohibiting same-sex marriages, while simultaneously affirming the goals of the transgender community, that is, legal recognition of the ability to change one’s sex and gender.  

ENDNOTES 

* Judicial Law Clerk, Commonwealth of Pennsylvania Superior Court, Judge Peter Paul Olszewski, Wilkes-Barre, Pennsylvania. J.D. 1998, Temple University School of Law; B.S. 1984 Clarion University of Pennsylvania. An earlier draft of this article was the 1998 recipient of The Smith and Leibel Family Law Award. I wish to express my appreciation to Professor Michael Libonati for his technical and theoretical assistance and support, and to the many unnamed members of the transgender community throughout the United States and Europe who, through the sharing of their experiences and concerns, gave seed to this project. 

1 The terms “transsexual” and “transgender” are often used interchangeably and, depending on the context in which they are used, are very similar in meaning. “Transsexual” is a medical term used to classify those individuals who have a persistent desire to modify their bodies, through hormonal therapy and surgery, from the form of their birth sex to a form more closely approximating the opposite sex. The term is thought to be derived from the early medical studies conducted by Drs. Harry Benjamin and John Money. “Transgender” is a term of political identity coined by members of the community. It is intended to be an inclusive phrase and encompasses not only transsexual people, but also transvestites, impersonators, transgenders, intersexed persons, drag queens, butch dykes and other “gender variant” people. 1 See generally Gender Vocabulary, fact sheet distributed by Action AIDS, 1216 Arch Street, Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 19107 (defining street terms related to the transgender community); Debbie Mitchell, 1 Defining Transvestism, 70 Tapestry j. 35, 35-36 (1995) (discussing different subdivisions of transgendered persons); Martine Rothblatt, The Apartheid of Sex, 16-19 (1995) (discussing distinctions between transsexuals and crossdressers within the transgender community). 

2 1 See, Mary Coombs, 1 Sexual Dis-Orientation: Transgendered People and Same-Sex Marriage, 8 UCLA Women’s L.J. 219, 257-65 (1998). In addition to published authority, much of the material in this article regarding the experiences and political positions of members of the transgender community is gleaned from conversations between community members and the author occurring at numerous conventions, symposia and support group meetings throughout the northeastern United States. Information regarding individual experiences and opinions is also taken from numerous Internet e-mail and newsgroup discussions among community members.

 3 The terms “post-operative” and “pre-operative” (or “post-op” and “pre-op”) refer to the surgical process of sexual transition. Within the transgender community “the operation” refers specifically to genital surgery. In the male-to-female transsexual woman, this involves removing the testicles and spongy erectile tissue of the penis, inverting the penile skin into a cavity placed in the pelvic girdle to create a nerve-rich vaginal lining, shortening the urethra and re-routing it in a downward direction, trimming and fashioning the glans into a sensate clitoris and folding and stitching excess scrotal tissue into labia. Occasionally, a small section of the colon is used to create a self-lubricating vaginal canal. In the female-to-male manl, the ovaries and uterus are removed, the vaginal opening closed, and a penis fashioned from skin grafts and an erectile prosthesis is attached. [lots of references]  

In terms of aesthetics and sexual function, the neo-vagina is often indistinguishable from a natal vagina. By contrast, the neo-penis rarely compares favorably to its natal counterpart. The vast difference in the ability of surgeons to fashion female and male genitals has lent support, intentionally or not, to commentators asserting an inherent patriarchal bias underlying medical science. 1 See generally Janice Raymond, The Transsexual Empire: The Making of a She-Male, (198x) (arguing that surgically creating females from males reflects the male-dominated societal view of the medical industry). 

4 An example of such a marriage would be the union of a post-operative transsexual woman (“transwoman”) and a natal male. Since the issues presented in this essay are as equally applicable to transwomen as they are to transmen, references to transpeople will generally be made in the feminine (i.e., male-to-female transgendered person, either pre-operative of post-operative), unless context demands otherwise.

 5 1 See infra note xxx and accompanying text for a discussion of state laws permitting and disallowing such marriages.

 6 For purposes of this article, the transgendered people being discussed are post-operative, that is, they have had sexual reassignment surgery (“SRS”) and are legally recognized as members of their new sex. It must be noted, however, that not all transpeople who undergo SRS are recognized as members of their new sex. 1 See infra note xxx and accompanying text for a discussion of jurisdictions that do not permit modification of birth records to reflect surgical reassignment. 

7 This article will not address the case of the pre-operative transgendered person who marries a differently-gendered person, i.e., a transwoman who retains her penis and marries a natal man. Such a marriage would technically be considered a same-sex marriage and would be universally recognized as being invalid. 1 See, e.g., David J. Ralis, County Wants To Know: Is The Groom A Guy?, The Times Leader, Wilkes-Barre, PA, August 18, 1998, at 1A-2A (reporting county’s investigation into issuance of license between pre-operative female-to-male man and natal woman). The challenge arises when the transwoman, subsequent to marriage, undergoes SRS and becomes legally recognized as female. Does the formerly invalid marriage to her husband then become valid? Can such a marriage be successfully challenged post-SRS? Such questions are left open for a different article.

 8 Transgender activists, as a rule, tend to operate either as individuals or as members of small, personality-driven organizations. The community is marginalized and nascent, and as yet does not possess one unifying organization that represents the consensus of the community strategically and politically, although numerous regional organizations and one special-interest lobbying organization do exist. 

9 The issue of transgender marriages was perhaps first raised academically in Comment, Susan L. Phillips, 1 Chromosome Loophole: Homosexual Marriages Should Be Legalized Based on Transsexual Marriages, 7 Adelphia L.J. 73 (1991). Phillips argued that marriages involving one transsexual spouse, while somatically differently-sexed marriages, are same-sex marriages when viewed genetically, thus allowing transsexual marriages to open the door to same-sex marriages). For a different twist to the debate, see 1 Rothblatt, supra note 2, at 79-85 (arguing that transsexual marriage applicants declaring themselves as neither male nor female would be ideal candidates for challenging current marriage laws).

 10 Gathering from anecdotal information and discussions with members of the transgender community, this author observes that, by and large, those transgendered persons who identify as gay or lesbian support the proposal, while those who oppose the idea are predominately heterosexual. 

11 1 See, F. Abraham, 1 Genital Reassignment on Two Male Transvestites, Inter. Journal of Transgenderism, vol. 1, no. 3 (1998) (available online at <http://www.symposion.com/ijt/ijtc0302.htm>); 1 originally published as F. Abraham, 1 Genitalumwandlungen an zwei m141 nnlichen Transvestiten, Zeitschrift fcr Sexualwissenschaften und Sexualpolitik, 18: 223-226 (1931). As noted, the general public was unaware of transsexual surgery until the news of Christine Jorgensen’s surgery was made public in 1953. 1 See generally, Christine Jorgensen, Christine Jorgensen: A Personal Autobiography (1967).

 12 1 See Andrew Jacobs, His Debut as a Woman, The New York Times Magazine 48, 50 (Sept. 13, 1998) (reporting estimates released by International Foundation for Gender Education).

 13 For instance, the most legendary SRS surgeon, Dr. Stanley Biber, practices as a general surgeon and has performed an estimated 10,000 surgeries since 1967 in the tiny [30 bed Sisters of Mercy hospital] in Trinidad, Colorado. Likewise, another world-renown surgeon, Dr. Eugene Schrang, performs surgeries in the small mill town of Neenah, Wisconsin.

 14 The standards of care promulgated by the Harry Benjamin International Gender Dysphoria Association in 1980 establish protocols to be followed by physicians and surgeons treating transgendered persons. Some of the provisions call for six months’ psychological counseling before hormonal therapy, dual psychiatric referrals for surgery, and a one year minimum “real life test” (RLT), that is, living, working and functioning socially exclusively as a member of the target gender before approval for surgery. [citation]

 15 M.J. Lucas, Let Me Die A Woman: The Why and How of Sex-Change Operations [xx] (1978).

 16 It is reported that the incidence of female-to-male transsexuals remaining married to their husbands is very small. For a discussion of the social factors considered by heterosexual males involved in transgender marriages, see note xx, 1 infra.

 17 1 See notes xx-xx, 1 infra, and associated text for a discussion on legal change of sex in states that permit such change.

 18 See notes xx-xx and accompanying text for a discussion of legislatures’ declarations of public policy regarding same-sex marriages.

 19 Unfortunately, for many transpeople, getting on with life in the present includes being constantly faced with negative reminders on one’s past. Survey results released by GenderPAC (a special interest lobbyist organization for transgendered people) suggest that nearly 60 percent of transgendered people have been assaulted solely because of their transgendered status. 1 See Jacobs, note 13, 1 supra, at 50.

 20 1 See, e.g., Jessica Xavier, Choosing Terms of Empowerment, 71 Tapestry Journal 51 (Spring 1995).

The assimilationist walks a fine line between honesty and deceit. For instance, vigorous discussion at transgender support groups often revolves around when a transwoman should inform her lover of her past history as a male. A small minority asserts that the other partner need never be told; a larger number hold that a partner should be told upon first meeting. The majority, though, believes that a partner need be told only when the relationship becomes serious, i.e., when the “L word” (“love”) is uttered — biding, however, by the caveat that if the transwoman senses the partner will react extremely negatively or violently, the relationship should be broken off with no revelation.

 The consequences of extreme “closeting” can be heart-rending. This author is aware of one instance, related to her anecdotally, where three male half-siblings declared themselves transgendered, Additionally, their father had gone through transition a few years previously and had relocated to establish a new family, married a man and adopted children as their mother — all without their knowledge of her past as a male. She was subsequently unable to help her children from her first marriage through the trials of their transitions.

 Concealing one’s transgendered status from a spouse may be grounds for annulment on grounds of fraud. 1 See,1  e.g., Anonymous v. Anonymous, 325 N.Y.S.2d 499 (1971) (marriage annulled after husband discovers on wife has penis); B. v. B., 355 N.Y.S.2d 712 (1974) (seventeen years marriage annulled after wife discovers husband has no penis); 1 but see, M.T. v. J.T.,355 A.2d 204 (N.J. Super. Ct. 1976) (annulment of marriage between man and post-operative transwoman wife denied because husband had knowledge of wife’s transgender status before marriage).

 21 The term “cisgendered” is one used within transgender discussion to describe those individuals who do NOT change their sex or gender, and remain the same sex or gender throughout their lives. It is derived from the root “cis,” meaning the opposite of “trans.”

 22 One of the more interesting phenomena of the transgender political movement this author has noticed is the fact that the majority of the nationally recognized activists identify themselves as lesbian. This may, in fact, be a result of assimilationist philosophy. As male-to-female transwomen complete their transition and settle into their new lives, those who identify themselves as heterosexual tend to assimilate to the point of entering so-called “normal” committed relationships with men. Those who identify as lesbians find themselves, even after transition, marginalized from mainstream society to some degree because of their homosexuality. Additionally, the psychosocial reality of the heterosexual transwoman involved in a relationship with a man tends to pull her away from open activism: social stigma attaches to an alleged heterosexual man once it becomes known his girlfriend or wife is or once was a male. The stigma can often become too great to allow the relationship to continue. In the balance between personal happiness and political activism, the assimilationist transwoman will usually choose happiness. 

23 P.L. 104-199 § 3(a); 1 U.S.C.A. § 7.  

24 The “transgender test for same-sex marriage” is actually an argument that has developed out of discussions within the transgender community regarding same-sex marriages. It is an informally posited concept that goes by a number of different names. The original developer of the idea is unknown.

 25 It follows logically that in jurisdictions such as Ohio and Tennessee where change of sex is not recognized, a couple with a transgendered partner may remarry after sex-change because, in spite of the physical and social changes, the transgendered partner is still considered a member of her old sex. The author is personally aware of one such marriage entered into by two men, one a female-to-male transsexual, in Cleveland, Ohio, during July, 1998.  

26 “A same sex marriage may not be recognized by the state as being entitled to the benefits of marriage.” Ak. St. 25.05.013(b). The following states also specifically prohibit same-sex marriages: Maine, 19-A M.R.S.A. § 701(5); Arizona, A.R.S. § 25-101; Arkansas, A.C.A. § 9-11-109; Georgia, Code 19-3-3.1; Hawaii, HRS § 572-1; Indiana, IC 31-11-1-1; Kansas, K.S.A. § 23-101; Maryland, Code, Family Law § 2-201; Michigan, M.C.L.A. 551.4; Minnesota, M.S.A. § 517.01; Montana, MCA 40-1-401; Nevada, N.R.S. 122-020; North Carolina, G.S. § 51-1; Ohio, R.C. § 3101-01; Pennsylvania, 23 Pa.C.S.A. § 1704; South Carolina, Code 1976 § 20-1-15; South Dakota, SDCL § 25-1-1; Tennessee, T.C.A. § 36-3-113; Utah, U.C.A. 1953 § 30-1-2; Virginia, Code 1950 § 20-45.2.

 27 The inability of a transgendered individual to legally change her sex after SRS has implications that go far beyond marriage issues. For instance, a transgendered prisoner may be housed with other prisoners who are the same as her birth sex. Most importantly, though, is the ability to possess legal identification congruent to one’s apparent sex. Every employer is required to check identification for immigration purposes; incorrect identification can lead to embarrassing questions at the least, to outright discrimination and refusal to hire. Such situations serve only to marginalize the transgendered person even more. If no transgendered person was able to obtain sex-congruent identification, a whole class of marginalized people would be created. 1 See also notes 14-15 and accompanying text for a discussion of the assimilationist view and its application to the transgender community.

 28 1 See, e.g., 1 Coombs, note 3, 1 supra, at 264-65. Coombs covers the issue with in a single sentence within her article on transgender marriage: “Despite the trepidation of some of my respondents, the later surgery is not likely to void an existing different-sex marriage.” 1 Id. No authority is given for this assertion.

 29 The instance of a biological male being considered female for other identification purposes presents issues beyond the scope of this paper.

 30 Baehr v. Lewin, 74 Haw. 530, 852 P.2d 44 1993).

 31 P.L. 104-199 § 3(a); 1 U.S.C.A. § 7.

 32 P.L. 104-199 § 3(a); 1 U.S.C.A. § 7.

 33 For a general discussion of the “full faith and credit” clause and its implications for DOMA, see Daniel A. Crane, 1 The Original Understanding of the “Effects Clause” of Article IV, Section 1 and Implications for the Defense of Marriage Act, 6 Geo. Mason L. Rev. 307 (1998). For contrasting analyses on the constitutionality of DOMA, 1 see generally, Jon-Peter Kelly, 1 Act of Infidelity: Why the Defense of Marriage Act is Unfaithful to the Constitution, 7 Cornell J.L. & Pub. Pol’y 203 (1997) (arguing that DOMA violates the “full faith and credit” clause); Lynn D. Wardle, Doma: 1 Protecting Federalism in Family Law, 45-FEB Fed. Law. 30 (1998) (arguing that DOMA does not violate the “full faith and credit” clause)..

 34 P.L. 104-199 § 2(a); 28 U.S.C.A. § 1738C.

 35 The Alaskan Supreme Court has likewise ruled on the issue of same-sex marriages. 1 See Brause v. Bureau of Vital Statistics, [cite] 1988 WL 88743 (Feb. 27, 1998) (holding that same-sex marriage policy impinges negatively on fundamental right to choose one’s life partner).

 36 Lowe v. Securities and Exchange Comm’n, 472 U.S. 181, 213 (1985) (White, J., concurring) (“The task of defining the objectives of public policy and weighing the relative merits of alternative means of reaching those objectives belongs to the legislature.”)

 37 Hodgson v. Minnesota, 497 U.S. 417, 490 (1990) (Kennedy, J., concurring/dissenting) (“[W]e must defer to a reasonable judgment by the state legislature when it determines what is sound policy.”)

 38 74 Haw. 530, 852 P.2d 44 (1993).

 39 1998 WL 88743 (Feb. 27, 1998)

 40 P.L. 104-199 § 2(a).

 41 U.S. Const. art. 1, § 1

 42 U.S. Const. art. 1, § 1.

 43 Williams v. North Carolina, 317 U.S. 287 (1942); 325 U.S. 226 (1945).

 44 1 See, e.g. Thomas v. Sullivan, 922 F.2d 132 (2d Cir. 1990) (recognizing common la marriage); Wilkins v. Zelichowski, 129 A.2d 459 (N.J. Super 1957) (recognizing “child marriage” performed in foreign jurisdiction); 1 In re Miller’s Estate, 214 N.W. 428 (Mich. 1927) (recognizing marriage entered into in foreign jurisdiction between first cousins).

 45 1 See, e.g. 1 In re Mortenson’s Estate, 316 P.2d 1106 (Ariz. 1927).

 46 1 Coombs, note 3, 1 supra, at 264-65.

 47 1 See, e.g., Cossey v. United Kingdom, 13 EHRR 622 (1991). Caroline Cossey, also known as “Tula,” was an internationally known fashion model and movie actress who had been born in England as a male. She petitioned the government to change the sex designation on her birth certificate, to allow her to marry. The government refuse to change her designation, and she appealed. The European Court of Human Rights held that the United Kingdom’s policy of refusing to recognize change of sex violated no Human Rights Regulations.

 48 California, Cal. Health & Safety Code § 103425; Hawaii, HRS § 338-17.7; Illinois, Ill. St. 410 § 435/17; Iowa, I.C.A. § 144.23; Louisiana, LSA-R.S. 40:62; North Carolina, G.S. § 130A-118; Oregon, O.R.S. § 33.460; Utah, U.C.A. 1953 26-2-11; Virginia, Code 1950 § 32.1-269; Wisconsin, W.S.A. 69.15.

 49 513 N.E.2d 828 (Ohio Prob. Ct. 1987).

 50 1 E.g., M.T. v. J.T., 355 A.2d 204 (N.J. Super. Ct. 1976).

 51 2 W.L.R. 1306 (1970). In 1 Corbett, the court was faced with an annulment proceeding brought by a transvestite husband against his post-operative transgendered wife. SUbstantial evidence was presented establishing the fact that the wife was somatically a female and was capable of performing sexually as a female. However, the court gave more weight to evidence of birth records and genetic testing, and declared that, despite all outward appearances, the wife was actually a male and granted the annulment.

 Such a finding runs counter to common sense and standard medical practice. With virtually every child born, sex is determined by visual examination by the obstetrician or midwife facilitating the delivery. Sex is solely determined by the appearance of the genitalia. This author is unaware of any instance where, absent deformity or an ambiguous appearance of the genitals, sex determination at birth awaited the outcome of genetic testing. 1 Corbett turns this basic principle on its head and looks to chromosomes rather than genitals to determine a person’s sex. Were chromosome testing for sex such a widespread standard practice, it is suggested that upwards of one in five-hundred otherwise female women would fail and be declared male. 1 See Rothblatt, note 2, at 71.

 52 1 Ladrach, 513 N.E.2d at 832.

 53 It should be noted that, administratively, Ohio permits the sex designation on other forms of identification such as driver’s licenses to be changed, reflecting the person’s new sex. Such a policy effectively allows the transgendered person to completely assimilate as a member of her new sex in all ways except for matrimony. For most people, this remaining restriction is substantial.

 54 Leane Renee, 1 Impossible Existence: The Clash of Transsexuals, Bipolar Categories, and Law, 5 Am. U. J. Gender & L. 343, 372 (1997).

 55 1 See., e.g., 23 Pa.C.SA. § 3305(b), which reads:

 In all cases of marriages which are voidable, either party to the marriage may seek

 and obtain an annulment of the marriage but, until a decree of annulment is obtained

 from a court of competent jurisdiction, the marriage shall be valid. The validity of

a voidable marriage shall not be subject to attack or question by any person if it is subsequently confirmed by the parties to the marriage or if either party has died.

 1 See also, Abel v. Waters, 373 So.2d 1125, 1128 (Ala. 1979) (holding that voidable marriage may be ratified after removal of the defect)

 56 1 See, e.g., 16 V.I.C. § 1, which states that “a marriage is prohibited and void from the beginning” if it violates certain prohibitions on consanguinity.

 57 1 Id., stating that “nullity may be shown in any collateral proceeding.”

 58 The instance of a man marrying a pre-operative transwoman further complicates the picture. Should the transwoman subsequently undergo SRS and legally change her sex, would the “defect” of the “void” marriage thus be cured, rendering it merely voidable and subject to reaffirmation?

 59 The effect of “civil death” on marriage is exemplified by Rhode Island Gen. Laws 1956, § 15-5-1, which states:

 Divorces from the bond of marriage shall be decreed in case of any marriage

 originally void or voidable by law, and in case either party is for crime deemed to

 be or treated as if civilly dead, or, from absence or other circumstances, may be

 presumed to be actually dead.

 Many commentators have noted that early marriage laws actually operated to created a “civil death” to women, by eliminating their rights to own property, enter into contracts, etc. 1 See Chery Harris, 1 Finding Sojourner’s Truth: Race, Property, Gender, and the Institution of Property, 18 Cordoza L. Rev. 309, 349-50 (1996).

 60 19-A M.R.S.A. § 751(2).

 61 One attractive but misleading assimilationist argument might be that the transgendered individual has undergone a “civil death” by adopting a new identity, thus ending the marriage entered into under the old identity. The reality, though, is that the individual’s past life follows them into their new life, in the form of social security records, driving records, credit records, academic records, medical records, etc. In fact, it would be foolish for the transgendered individual to declare her old self dead and start from scratch with a new identity — creating a newborn person already well into her second or third decade of life is a well-nigh impossibility.

 62 1 See supra, notes xx-xx and accompanying text for a discussion of how states define marriage.

 63 1 See, e.g., Singer v. Hara, 11 Wash App. 247, 522 P.2d 1187 (1974) (holding that “appellants are not being denied entry into the marriage relationship because of their sex; rather, they are being denied entry into the marriage relationship because of the recognized definition of that relationship as one which may be entered into only by two persons who are members of the opposite sex.”)

 64 Sexual fantasies of “forced feminization” lurk at the fringes of the transgender community, but actual incidents of such behavior are exceedingly rare. As with most fantasy behaviors, i.e., bondage, masochism and sadism, forced feminization involves an acknowledged, if not overt, agreement between the participants setting limits and boundaries — in short, permission.

 65 One notable exception is the documented case of Karen Kerin. In her testimony before the United States Senate Labor and Human Resources Committee on July 27, 1994, she told how she was forced to change her sex as a result of illness, purported to be metastasized testicular cancer.

 



Now that the Maine vote on Gay marriage has been decided… at least for now and the dust has mostly settled on the issue; I believe the recent lowering of the cloak of “good manners and diplomacy” barrier should be restored to some position that reflects reality.

I have said elsewhere that I believe it unlikely that the word “marriage” will ever be applied to gay relationships. I certainly don’t see it happening in the USA anytime soon and many countries have opted for a system of  “Civil Partnerships” Where that kind of legislation exists such as the UK I cannot see there ever being enough momentum generated to change the law. Canada has full marriage equality for gay couples but I can’t see that spreading south of the border, at least not for a while.

Transsexuals only have a stake in this debate if they happen to also be Gay. I know a few transsexual women who are in Gay relationships and I do fully accept that fact of sexual and life partner has little if anything to do with which side of the sex binary you happen to fall. People I consider good on line friends who I respect have pointed out that whether or not you are for or against gay “marriage” is a generational issue. Under the age of fifty and the chances are you, are for Gay “Marriages”; over the age of fifty and chances are you are against. I’m not so sure about that depth of generalization. Unfortunately the word bigot and the existence of bigotry gets bandied about a lot in the discussions I have had with various friends. I don’t feel like a “bigot” and as a rule I don’t behave like one. At least I try not to do that.

A bigot is someone who holds a view for no particular reason except an unreasonable prejudice. I like to think if I hold a particular view it is for a reason, a genuine reason with good grounds for holding that view. I am anti transgender infiltrating women’s spaces for good reasons. I have known a few lesbian women in my time and still do. One woman managed my career for a time and I was sad to see her go. We lost touch but when last heard was still with the partner she was with when we met. Both were fine people. My husband and I are involved with a club and again two members are a lesbian couple and everyone accepts them and socialises without a problem. That is how it should be. I also strongly believe that our laws should recognize gay relationships and give full entitlements in taxation inheritance etc as heterosexual couples. There should be no differences in those issues. I apologise if some of this paragraph sounds a tad patronizing, however I can’t think of any other way of expressing how I feel about these issues.

The problem I currently have lies in the effect of the word “Marriage” being used in law and the perception society will have of my own relationship with my husband. I am currently struggling with this issue.

A great many people, far too many to be comfortable still believe that there is no such thing as sex change and that transsexual women are still effectively men, gay men who just want a relationship with a straight guy, expanding the dating pool so to speak. It’s nonsense of course. Transgender and LGBT activists do not help with their insistence on “I can keep my penis and still be a woman” arguments. I lay the blame for this stupid idea firmly at the feet of the GLBT alliance. My husband is not gay but if my medical past was to become revealed publically, he would be viewed as Gay and that is grossly unfair. Our marriage would be seen as a gay one and again that is grossly unfair. To say that it would not happen is in my opinion being naïve. Those like me are already viewed as transgender despite our protestations to the contrary so to say it wouldn’t happen is simply not valid.

I realize that my insistence on a difference of terms for heterosexual marriage and homosexual partnership is likely to create a source of breaking a friendship with some people I both like and respect. I very much regret that. However I cannot pretend to think or believe something I don’t.

Marriage for heterosexual couples has a long history and is in place across almost every culture on earth. The concept for homosexual partnerships is very modern and I believe it only proper that there should be a new term even if the civil laws surrounding the partnership are the same. I love my husband more than life itself I cannot support something that will risk his reputation or dignity. That is the bottom line.



{November 19, 2009}   The German Girl

In contrast to the story of Lily Elbe which I pointed out in my last article was essentially a transgender one, is the transsexual story of the 16 year old German girl Kim Petras, who is currently hitting the television news stories as the youngest ever transsexual. Unlike lily Elbe Kim is indeed a “Classic Transsexual” 

I watched on the internet a section of an Australian channel 7 report on the young Kim Petras, I was impressed that the program makers chose to use the descriptive “transsexual” throughout the documentary though not quite so impressed with their mentioning that Kim preferred Barbie dolls and ignored the “boy toys” that her Father constantly gifted her. Choice of toys is hardly a definitive test of transsexuality.  That point aside the overall impression of Kim was of an otherwise normal girl in her teens.

The only really sad part is that having gone so public with her story so early in life, Kim will now forever be known as a transsexual and as such will never know true normality. That said her story will I am sure help the many thousands of prepubescent children experiencing a medical intersex condition such as transsexuality. Kim has apparently avoided the physical abuse and trauma that was and is the puberty, that so many of the earlier generations have had to endure, including me. I was as confident of my true sex as early as four to my certain knowledge.

 The one totally unnecessary comment in this channel 7 presentation was the one asked by the reporter “what if Kim later regrets her decision” It should be obvious from the sheer natural and relaxed behaviour of Kim that it is as unlikely as any other normal girl would regret being female. It seems it is a measure of the effect that transgenderism has had on public perception of transsexuals that transition should happen later in life and not pre-puberty. My own self knowledge has not wavered since the age of four and I don’t know of any Classic Transsexual whose self knowledge has wavered. However society is used to the “gender is a rainbow” story that it has been presented with over the past few decades. As applied to which sex you are it is “twaddle” and everyone knows it except transgender. Gender may very well be a rainbow however which sex you are is not. Sex and gender are words and facts that are not interchangeable.

 There are a number of doctors and medical facilities around the world Boston, Holland, Germany that have expressed a willingness to help very young transitioners. There was an individual mentioned in the Kim Petras film who is resident in Australia and wisely her identity is to be kept secret. However I wonder how long it will be before she too becomes a bit of a celebrity “sex Change”

 Ironically CAMH also treat young transsexuals but with a very different approach. There the young transsexuals are encouraged to play the games associated with their genitalia and prevented from playing the games they choose to play. They are not allowed to be who they believe themselves to be. They are effectively punished for being the person they believe themselves to be. I have even heard the electro convulsive therapy is used though I must say I am not certain of that fact. Nonetheless it still sounds very much like the kind of traumatic childhood I had and was fortunate to remain relatively sane!

The life story of Kim Petras albeit a very short one so far, is extremely typical of “Classsic Transsexuals” the only significant difference is that in Kim’s case someone actually listened, believed her and her parents and actually provided support and help, practical support and help that hopefully will result in the world benefitting from the success of a highly intelligent and gifted young woman. I do hope that transgender doctrine does not get to the likes of Kim.

 



{November 11, 2009}   The Danish Girl

I just heard yesterday that there is to be a film made about Lily Elbe the Danish woman recognised as the world’s first transsexual. The role is to be played by Nicole Kidman. 

When things like this are announced and films like this are released I instinctively shudder and experience a powerful urge to crawl into a dark cupboard and close the door after me. Something I used to do as a child  when horror movies were televised and the vampire was about to take a lump out of the female victims neck. Television and film producers seem to me much like those vampires when it comes to dealing with the subject of transsexuals. They suck the life blood out of any credibility that transsexuals had, or may have again earned with the general public since the last awful transsexual movie,

I anticipate the same charge to claim ownership of the narrative of “The Danish Girl” by the transgender as there was with the dreadful “Transamerica” I have no doubt the movie will be lauded as one about a “transgender woman” Well the TG can have her though I believe it would be significant to find out what Einar Wegenar or more correctly Lily Elbe feels about her narrative being adopted by women with penises, especially since she herself became so desperate to be rid of that awful foreign appendage that she allowed herself to become a guinea pig. She had no idea of how the surgery would turn out or if she would survive yet she went ahead. How much courage did that take and how much is that an indication of how deep her revulsion of her physical body had become. I don’t see that in much TG narrative currently.

However there is not much surviving information that can be trusted about the young Lily Elbe, her childhood or early life. The book “The Danish Girl” is largely a work of fiction and is not a biography and thus frankly, I don’t trust the story. The book and film really begins when a model fails to show for a sitting and Gerda suggests Einar pose for her in her clothes. It is portrayed as the beginnings of his desire to change sex. That is a TG narrative not a transsexual one.   

You may have gathered that I am extremely distrustful of dramatic portrayals of the transsexual narrative in general. I really cannot think of one that has accurately conveyed what is endured in our early childhood prepubescent and pubescent; and for that matter early adulthood leading up to correction. The public ridicule and constant beatings by parents and peers and latterly anyone who takes a dislike to the way you look, speak, walk or even hold your glass. I was once punched repeatedly at a concert for reasons I still cannot fathom to this day. I was doing no more than standing in a queue for the bar during an interval. I was 18 it was 1966 and I had red hair way past my shoulders, oh and a “squeaky” voice; too pretty for a boy perhaps. Is that sort of thing going to be part of “The Danish Girl” or is it going to be another part tragedy, part comedy and part circus exhibit like the films that precede it were. 

It remains to be seen whether I can steel myself to come out from that dark cupboard and watch, I somewhat doubt that I will be bothered. It is after all a transgender movie and not about a “Classic Transsexual”.

 



{November 9, 2009}   The Binary In Action

A Guest post by Sybil

In the HBO Film “Normal” there’s an exchange between the principals that even years later still haunt me. Amidst all the storm and drama created by the 50-something transition of Tom Wilkerson’s character Ray . The suffering wife, Irma played by Jessica Lange, turns to her husband and asks pointedly as the subject of SRS arises:

“Why do you need a vagina?”

Ray replies; “Why do you need one?”

She replies in a voice choked with all the hurt of a woman loosing her beloved husband, yet with more than a little incredulity at the stupidity of the question, says:

“I used mine to give birth to our children and to take you into my body when we made love!”

Her answer is very telling, and sadly, lost, both on Tom’s character and most if not all of the transgendered who watch this film and only hear his reply….

“I need it to be complete!”

S/he (I use the mixed pronoun for this character, as s/he is still very much at this point at the start of a transition) is right and yet… utterly wrong. Yes s/he is correct, a woman cannot be a woman while if in possession of a penis. To argue differently, despite the inordinate number of men online claiming to be women in this very state is to argue up is down, and black is white. So while it is indeed true. For Tom to complete transition, s/he does have to have a vagina, why I ask how does that make her complete? How can s/he be “complete” if s/he waves off all functionality of said organ as Ray so blithely did to Irma.

I would argue that while a vagina is often pointed to as the nadir of a sexual transition, it is not! The vagina is but a small part of the being of “a woman” While it is indeed required that a woman possess a vagina to be a woman. Her vagina is but the portal to what makes her “a woman.”

While that seems rather obvious to most who walk the earth, what needs to be stated quite clearly here within this context is that a vagina is not some happenstance organ nestled betwixt our thighs. A vagina is there for a purpose! It’s sole purpose is to allow ingress and egress to a woman’s body A vagina is there so a woman may take the penis of a man into her body, and the vagina is there to allow the baby created of that same union to emerge unto the world. And that dear reader, is the third rail of all TG topics

Babies!

Babies are after all the reason there are women upon this earth just as it’ the reason there are men. Babies are the purpose for which women were created and that is our nadir, our acme, our zenith, the pinnacle of all that is woman. It is our biological imperative to procreate and thus babies are the sole reason women are built the way they are. It is the reason women act as they do. It is the reason for a designated role for women within the social matrix. It is the reason there are these two glandular structures that grow upon our chests. It is the reason why said structures ache (or should) when a child cries in hunger.

Babies ARE the reason for woman and yet am I the only one who finds it ironic that in any and all these “discourses on “being a woman,” babies NEVER, repeat, NEVER enter the conversations! NEVER! This is very telling in more than one way!

For instance, I recently went to a small gathering of friends and one of the women there brought her baby, a delightful little girl of 8 months. Every single woman at the party, in an unending dance that lasted the evening, gathered round her one after the other.  Each of us eagerly taking turns at holding her, amusing her, and of course pointing out all the shiny and not so shiny things that women point out to babies. In general, happily doing anything and everything that might result in the dear little one giving us a smile and hopefully that wonderful leg and arm shake that babies do when delighted.

It is telling because not a single male in attendance even acknowledged the child’ existence. Nary a comment was made by any male there of the cute costume Mom garbed her in daughter in for Halloween. Not even the father, whom I know to be a most excellent father, showed the slightest interest in this adorable child whilst there at the party. While I will give dad his due as he did in fact perform the portage of all the various and sundry accoutrements that come with a child these days; that was the extent of his involvement. Taking care of the child herself in this social setting? Nope! That duty was the unspoken province of the women. A duty he was happy to relinquish to us, made more than a tad ironic as he was in drag!

It is telling because I saw the same thing acted out at a clinic in Thailand. The doctor’s utterly adorable daughter of five came into the clinic one evening with the woman who cares for both the daughter and the clinic. She was dressed to go out in a white blouse a dark velvet dress with her hair done up and a flower in it, in short the picture of the perfect little girl

That particular evening there were at least 15 women there in the clinic more or less.  Of this number, two thirds were the clients, busy lounging about, asking for Thai Tea, surfing the net, reading or chatting while the other third, the staff waiting on them hand and foot… (Also indicative of the perceived right of men with regards women but I’m not going there at the moment)

Into this group of “women” comes this most lovely child. Every one of the staff found multiple reasons to visit with this child and to mother her in some small way, as did one of the clients, Just one, yours truly.

As to the rest of the clients, their reaction was the same as that of the men at the party. “Child! What child? There was there was a kid in here, When?”

Why and how do I know this to be the case? Simple! I was curious as I seemed to be the only one who saw her. So I asked each and every one of the other patients after the daughter left.

Let me head off the howls of protest forming as this is read. Yes, a woman is more than her biology. Far more! A woman’s value is now greater than her ability to reproduce and thankfully the age of “barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen” is passing for much of the world. Women can, and do most if not all the same tasks that a men do. But that said. To ignore the biological quotient of woman, no matter how you slice it as the underling measure of women is to misogynisticly ignore exactly what a woman is!

The Jasper’s of the net and all the other TG of the world can argue till they are blue in the face about what a woman is along their social constructs and it will not change one single thing.

  • Women are shaped the way they are for a reason. To attract men and to facilitate the fertilization, deliver and care of their children
  • There is a reason men and other women find that shape attractive. The shape of a woman signals her fertility and her value as a breeding partner hence the nadir for a woman is 19 years old with symmetrical features and a waist to hip ratio of 0.7
  • Women dress as they do for a reason. To accentuate those features that say I am fertile and possibly available as a breeding partner
  • Women interact with each other because at some point in their life they will be dependent upon the other in their life women to help care for them and their offspring…
  • They also interact with men as they do…for a reason! While men are a potential threat to any woman it still important to the woman to attract and keep a good man. One that will care for her and her children when she is vulnerable.

While it is true that a woman with operative history is sterile, she is none the less measured on the same scale socially of perceived fertility, as are all women. For her, just as it is with the post menopausal woman or the women who cannot conceive, sterile or not, she must still conform to the norms of womanhood, as if she were fertile because women are measured by their biology and their biology is measured against their ability to reproduce successfully. This ~IS~ the way of the world and liking it or not will change nothing. The binary is real. The binary is immutable and both the sexes are and always will be measured upon the two different sides of that scale.

I say it is time to end this seemingly unending debacle of I’m a woman because I say so.” Poppy cock! A woman is a woman because she is woman as defined by the binary. Not because of any desire or social construct.  The first and second wave of Feminism attempted to bypass the biological imperative in saying men and women are the same and it failed. Miserably!

The 21st century gender politics of the GLBT will fare no better



{October 19, 2009}   Transsexual

As child and as I became knowledgeable about what it was that was really wrong with me I was quite comfortable with the “knowing” however strange that may seem, though I didn’t know quite how I could go about fixing the problem. I thought up all kinds of schemes to get myself to Cassablanca and Georges Burou. I’d read every piece of information I could about Christine Jorgenson and even heard about Roberta Cowell. April Ashley too was in the papers and Cassablanca seemed the place to go. The term itself “Transsexual” I really did not have a problem with back then because it seemed to me a medical term that adequately described what it was. Like “chicken pox” or “Polio” (which I’d contracted as a child) Today, I have a real problem with transsexual for a myriad of reasons but it seems to me that is just plain wrong, why should I? 

Most of the genuine transsexual women I have ever met have a single commonality that strikes you in the first few seconds that you meet. The “vibe” the aura that is given off is female even if I recognize any of those tiny tiny things that can give us away to the cognisant. There is just “something” that often you cannot put your finger on that tells you that you are dealing with another female. Irrespective of what you either know or have picked up on you recognize the feminine in that person. This is true even if the woman you meet has not yet been able to get corrective surgery. As a trained observer I can spot the anguish in the eyes but the vibe is still present. 

What it is that gives me a problem with the word is the perception that the general population has of transsexual. It presents in several different ways, one is the confusion between transgender and transsexual and another is the image the porn industry presents of transsexual. Neither of which have anything much to do with the reality that is the genuine real deal bona fide medical model of a transsexual. One look at what comes up when you Google the word is enough to send any sane person heading for the delete button. Wikipedia definitions have been so tampered with so much by those with vested interests it cannot be taken seriously any longer. The other issue I have stems from the “Gender Identity” introduced by John Money and Stoller before him. Both of these men in my opinion began from a total lack of understanding of the starting point that is real transsexual. 

I have written elsewhere about definitions and I do not propose to repeat myself here. I have been involved in several in depth discussions about replacement terms for the genuine transsexual. Transsexual has become so tainted by the claims of the confused cross dresser that we have constantly sought alternative terms to describe the condition that affected us. Most of those affected would rather just be called women because that is what we are but that hardly acknowledges that we did indeed enter this world with a medical condition and it should be recognised, Many individuals have tried and many other break away groups have tried and all have them have issues that someone has an objection too. So perhaps it is now time to again take ownership of the original medical term and that is Transsexual. It is a term that can apply to both women and men and we should own it. 

Why? Why has it become so that women (and men) who have survived a chronic and life threatening condition should have come to feel such shame and disgust for a term that merely gives a name and descriptive to what they have endured. If today’s woman who has completed SRS is to regain her independence from transgender the first battle has to be to reclaim ownership of the term transsexual. There are certain terms I prefer to use, I like to refer to SRS as a corrective procedure. I dislike referring to myself as a “transsexual woman” or qualifying my female status in any way. However, there is nothing wrong with having been transsexual. I’m not proud of it but I am not ashamed either and neither should anyone. It is just a fact and transsexual is just a medical condition end of story. The problem is the appropriation of the transsexual narrative by transgenderists.



{October 6, 2009}   La La Land

There are a number of people around the various forums and blogs who constantly do the rounds causing disruption on otherwise quite innocent blogs dealing with personal issues and experiences of family members who are transsexual. These “personalities” make sure the TG dogma is established in the minds of the bloggers. These same personalities are often the ones I find myself at odds with elsewhere.

 

If an argument is presented where I may assert that transsexual women are just women with a birth defect, I get called bigot because I don’t include transgender. If I make it clear that the incidence of same sex attraction is statistically similar within transsexuals to mainstream society I get called homophobe. If I present the idea that transsexual is defined as an abhorrence of birth genitalia I am accused of being transphobic. None of these accusations have any foundation or substance in reality. The people who know me well would I am sure attest to those facts. Frankly I am not particularly troubled by the accusations on a personal level since I know they are not true. I am however, troubled by the effect they have on the silent people who read the blogs but rarely if ever comment.

 

These personalities I refer to make regular appearances on the various blogs as they troll around the net looking for venues to play out their fantasies and to draw me and others who are like minded into verbal brawls. Sometimes I engage and exchange a few verbal blows and then withdraw leaving them to rant to themselves. Their motivation seems to be self aggrandisement borne of over inflated egos. I am often amazed at the lengths to which they will go. They are easy to rile and hard to offend since they are in reality too stupid to realise that they are being played with. Their ideological position is weak, their knowledge of the science that supports the reality of the primary transsexual condition at best “sketchy” and when confronted with the facts simply call them a lie. Well the truth is that no one believes them, not in the face of such convincing evidence.

 

The history of the transsexual will one day be written I am sure and there are already a few biographies that to some extent cover the basics. From the time that Christine Jorgenson’s sex change became public the conflict between genuine cases of transsexuality and cross dressers or transvestites who fantasise too deeply has month by month year by year gradually intensified. Today one get’s the impression that one group would cheerfully tear the other group limb from limb. Charles Prince, aka Virginia Prince also known as Arnold Lowman was uncomfortable with the generic term at the time for men who like to wear female clothes i.e “transvestite” chose to use the term “transgender”. This was a word created by Magnus Hirschfield a German doctor and psychiatrist who specialised in sex issues. Hirschfield was homosexual but significantly also a friend to Dr Harry Benjamin. Dr Benjamin however took to using the term transsexual. Prince consulted Dr Benjamin but was refused surgery, at least that is the rumour, whether true or not Prince certainly dressed as a female full time and referred to himself as a “transgenderist” and not transvestite, wishing to distance himself from what was at the time seen as a fetish. I suppose it still is, albeit pretty harmless. Charles Prince was however quite dismissive of transsexuals describing them as delusional at best and at worse plain pathetic. Sour grapes? Who knows?

 

One of the main purposes of this blog is to provide a platform for me to express publically the views on transsexuality I have formed over a lifetime of experiencing the birth condition myself and some 25 years of post correction life. There are a number of people like myself blogging some have more experience most rather less. One of the things that we all share is that from time to we are verbally attacked and accused of heresy of some form or another. Mine is usually based on my definition of what is and is not transsexual. For others who take a more liberal view it is their very liberal view that is the problem. One day with any luck and hopefully not too distant, a definitive diagnosis will be found. To quote a character from Charles Dickens’s novel Great Expectations “What Larks Pip old chap, what larks then”

 

Because when you create rigid definitions about a medical condition there follows prescribed treatments for either a cure for the condition or in the case of chronic conditions a system for managing the condition is created. If we think it is bad now just wait until this definitive diagnosis becomes available. The Swaab research is rejected as too small a sample to be significant. Too likely that results were skewed by HRT The other 300 or so pieces of research are basically ignored and so the debates rumble on interminably. The same will happen to any potentially definitive diagnostic tool.

 

The real test of what constitutes the division between transsexual and Charlie Princes band of “Men In Frocks” has been known too us since way before Christine Jorgenson. Harry Benjamin knew it Magnus Hirschfeild knew it; transsexuals cannot live with the wrong genitalia and always seek to correct. Transsexuals experience such disgust with their own bodies they will do almost anything to make it align with their sense of self identity. Anything short of that is transgender, any ambivalence is transgender there is not any gradient to transsexuality. There is no such thing as non op transsexual, it does not exist. No transsexual remains pre-op for any longer than is absolutely necessary. It is this stance that get’s me into a lot of disputes out in la la land. Will the advent of a definitive diagnosis change things in la la land. I don’t think so it is La La Land after all.



{October 5, 2009}   On Fear and Hate

 Cross posted from Enough Nonsense.

 

Hardly an article goes by on any transgender/GLB blog that doesn’t speak of the hatred and bigotry shown to the transgender by society at large. They are all convinced that society is out to get them, to discriminate blindly against them, to hurt them and to ridicule them and to make them feel inhuman. 

I wonder where all this hatred is. Frankly I don’t see it, and apart from a very small percentage of the population who would hate anyone, even and including their own parents, I am not sure it really exists except in the mind of the transgender who drink the lemming Kool Aid served up by the numerous activists and leaders in the GLBT.

 

At the Nazi war crimes trials in Nuremberg at the end of World War II, Hermann Goering was quoted as saying: 

“Naturally the common people don’t want war…neither in Russia, nor in England, nor for that matter, in Germany. That is understood. But, after all, it is the leaders of the country who determine the policy and it is always a simple matter to drag the people along, whether it is a democracy, or a fascist dictatorship, or a parliament, or a communist dictatorship. Voice or no voice, the people can always be brought to the bidding of the leaders. That is easy. All you have to do is tell them they are being attacked, and denounce the peacemakers for lack of patriotism and exposing the country to danger. It works the same in any country.” 

Actually, this is not the only megalomaniac that ever said something to this effect. Both Julius Caesar and Napoleon are thought to have said similar things, but what it does show is that leaders have a vested interest in spreading fear. The leaders of the Transgender political wing are certainly not above spreading this sort of misinformation, nor are they averse to singling out groups that disagree with their agenda. 

Now, I’m not saying there is not discrimination going on nor that there is not a real and present danger that any particular person will not be the victim of violent crime, but what I am saying is that the fear of such violence has to be balanced and reasoned. All sorts of people get killed or beaten every day.  Women get raped or beaten senseless by their spouses.  All sorts of people are routinely discriminated against and harassed, targeted for unfair dismissal from their workplaces, hated by neighbors and others for no reason at all other than someone just doesn’t like them. 

But isn’t it time the transgender grew up? When are the transgender going to take some personal responsibility for their actions? Being yourself is not always easy to do, for anyone!  It’s like honesty. We are all told that honesty is the best policy but in point of fact being too honest can get you disliked really quickly. We all tell lies, or at least we all tell untruths simply because we have to. If we all told the truth all the time we wouldn’t have any friends.

Anything to do with sex in America is going to raise puritanical hackles. That’s a fact of living in this country. We all want sex and we all enjoy sex but nobody ever discusses it. When’s the last time you had a discussion about sex with your next door neighbor? For the most part, you don’t and it’s because discussing sex with one’s next door neighbor simply isn’t considered to be in good taste. If you are considering swapping your gender identity, or are in transition to have SRS, didn’t you at some point in time consider that the job might just be dangerous or invite discrimination and ridicule? If you didn’t, then you must be a complete moron. What on earth made you think that the world was just going to welcome its new son or daughter with open arms? 

So you go ahead anyway and you run into this brick wall and the first thing you do is start the blame game. Everyone is out to get you. It’s all someone else’s fault and so you think all those transgender activists are right, and need to lobby for laws, call in the Human Rights Commission and force the rest of the world to make accommodations for you. It never occurs to you that being yourself and being honest about who you are, can be a bit upsetting to others.  They tend to start thinking you’re a bit crazy or unbalanced. 

The activists tell you to be afraid…and so you are afraid. They tell you that you need to help them pass laws to protect you. They show you the Remembering our Dead wall and they instill fear. In return you give them your allegiance and you truly believe that they will be your salvation. 

THEY ARE WRONG. THEY ARE USING YOU FOR POLITICAL GAIN. 

They cannot deliver what they promise because no law has ever been able to force people to change their opinions. Only time does that, and it does it by quelling the fear that people have when presented with change. When you try to force something down someone else’s throat, they tend to gag on it. That’s what your seeing, the gag reflex in action. If someone sticks a gun in your face you are likely to become very reasonable toward the person holding it. It won’t make you like them any better, but it will make you more polite.  If you really want to change opinions and end discrimination and stop the hatred then you must not go frightening the population. Forced inclusion is not inclusion at all, it just makes you a gatecrasher at a party you were not invited too.  You might get in the door but you’re going to be the unwelcome guest that nobody speaks too. 

Those of us that you accuse of having passing rights and cis-privilege knew that from the get go. We worked within the system, we worked hard to fit in, we went about our business quietly and we tried very, very hard not blame everyone else for something that was, at it’s core, our issue and not theirs. Stop it with the blame game, and don’t believe every Hermann Goering that comes knocking at your door offering salvation. You’re just likely to get caught up in a never ending battle where you are the casualty that feeds their ever growing cause while fullfilling their prophecies.

Are you tired of the transgender and GLBT appropriating the identity of true/classic transsexuality.  If you are, drop us a note and we will tell you how you can join our movement.  Your e-mail address will be guarded as strictly confidential.  Help us break free of the transgender.  Pass the e-mail address on to others who feel as you do.  Please join us…

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{October 2, 2009}   Are we Just Plain Wrong?

Word from the front line by guest author, Leigh Smith

Over at ts-si.org, Sharon Gaughan puts together a remarkable article entitled Skating across this immature age

Sharon is a very astute writer and has a very sharp mind. I can agree with what she writes in this article, even though it is a slap down of what she feels is emanating from blogs such as ours which appear to her, to collect the flotsam and jetsam of the very worst examples of transsexual behavior. It would seem that she and her followers are slapping our wrists for going out to the transgender blogs and calling them on their nonsense. Apparently, we are the militants, with Susan and myself representing the very worst of the militants, bordering on being less than the real deal in the eyes of those at TS-SI that would set themselves as the moderate examples of women born transsexual, or HBS whatever your flavor is. 

Having said that, her point is well made and is taken on board. My first reaction was to ask Sharon exactly what their policy of appeasement and respectful discourse has accomplished. I never actually asked the question, because I think I already know the answer and frankly I am way to busy to trudge through the mountain of documentary evidence that she will produce as fact.   However, for the most part the transgender have never listened to anything the HBS have to say and brand them with the same iron they brand all of us with. I think that as the “Transsexual War of Independence”, as it has been dubbed, heats up, it burns those at the fringes, which includes the moderate approaches that TS-SI expounds. Frankly, Sharon Gaughan is embarrassed by our behavior, and rightly so!  I am embarrassed by our behavior! Does Sharon think that we WANT to be out here arguing with cross-dressers, gender queers, transvestites and gay men? Apparently she thinks we do. She makes an excellent argument.

Are we being immature? Are we just plain wrong? 

Why do we do it? 

Honestly? Because the appeasement approach flat hasn’t worked at all.  It doesn’t work because many of those within the Transgender umbrella simply have no idea what a Transsexual is.  

When the internet exploded into everyone’s lives, people could suddenly interact with the world anonymously from their living rooms. Anyone could explore their fantasies online with other people, people they would never meet but would form friendships with. They could claim to be anything they could imagine, and they did. In droves they came, claiming to be all sorts of things that they were not. Groups formed and information was exchanged and hierarchy’s were established and pretty soon those in the lower hierarchy’s, aided with the narratives of those in higher levels, stretched the truth and were placed in different levels, and soon enough, allsorts of people in allsorts of groups all climbed up to the topmost perches of their hierarchy’s so as not to be left behind. Many did this with outright lies, purposeful exaggerations and cloaked in anonymity. Along came the GLB and seeing these numbers decided to add them to their alphabet soup under the “T” designator.  Everyone was allowed in, rooms were moderated to filter out inappropriate speech, everyone had to be kind to each other and nobody was allowed to attack anyone else, or they would be pushed out.  Even if you knew that the person that called themselves Sabrina online was in reality a male truck driver with a wife and 3 kids from Des Moines Iowa, you were expected to refer to Sabrina as HER and SHE. If you didn’t you were ejected from the room, called hateful and branded as a troll. You either played the game or you were gone! 

Born of this new age form of human interaction, the rank and file of the transgender swelled. Soon they were included under the GLB as the T part, and the restrictions remained. If you wanted to be in the transgender club you were forced to be respectful, you were made to be accepting. Any attack on any one, was met with an attack from all. They played their games and they called each other sisters and they swapped information and they learned how to be just the same as any transsexual, even copying their narratives. Soon enough, dissatisfied with simply saying they were a part time cross- dresser, a transvestite or a gender queer man, they started to claim they were transsexuals.  Some left their wives and children and hooked up with other cross-dressers and transvestites and became transsexual lesbians. They obtained black market hormones and even presented themselves to the gender psyches. They became the fantasy they created and they rallied under the transgender umbrella, paying homage to the Gays and Lesbians. Some became activists and lobbied for rights, citing that they were every bit as much a woman as anyone else.

 

One thing that didn’t change was the attitude that if you called one out, they all descended upon you. They ejected anyone that gave any objection or put forward any argument that Transexuality was not simply another label, that it was a real medical condition. We could cite the evidence, show them the science, state our life experiences, but it did not matter to the hive, if one was attacked then the hive responded en mass to repel the invader. You were shouted down, your comments deleted, banned from commenting. You were branded as bigots, homophobes and transphobes. It was said that you were hateful, self loathing and full of shame, unhappy at your lives for not being out and proud. You were called elitists and separatists, and liars.  Some within the hive would be designated to search out contrary evidence to the legitimacy of transsexuals having a medical condition. They showed you where you were wrong, how the cisGender machine and the patriarchy and the right wing hate you and discriminate against you. You are told that you are transgender first and foremost, that to put anything else ahead of that would be heresy, that you must follow the doctrine. You were told that you are the old guard, that your ways are of the past and that the new ways are to be out and proud. You are despised for fitting into society and accused of being privileged, and having passing rights, and lord help you if you have more than $10 in your purse and a working credit card, you are a member of the patriarchy, white, rich and privileged. 

The War of Independence

 Once upon a time, a long long time ago, a Transsexual woman went off to a land far far away and had surgery to change her sex. Newspapers of the day reported the new surgical procedures available and showed pictures of before and after, wrote histories of the subjects every time a new surgery was performed, and soon it became not so uncommon, and less newsworthy. The public read about these folks and marveled at the new medical science and for the most part realized that these were a very few people that had a serious medical condition which surgery corrected, and they became just another woman outside of the media hype.  For the very large part people had not met a transsexual, was not expecting to meet one at every gas station or supermarket and had no friends who had ever met one. For certain nobody ever expected to have one working where they worked, and nobody ever suspected that the gal in the office was born with male genitalia. Yes it was a tight little community of individuals back then, a very very few. 

Back then, during early transition and RLT, it was not uncommon for transsexuals to confide in those that needed to know. Certainly I did, some 30 years ago, there were those I confided in, employers and such, those that needed to know. Back then it wasn’t simple to get documentation changed. People understood that the condition was a medical issue, that it was not a game, nor was it a sexual need to cross-dress for pleasure. We came to them honestly and we gained their respect and their friendship. Later on as we moved through the hormone process, gained our surgeries, had our papers changed and got on with our lives, there was less and less need to disclose our histories, and we simply became, just another woman.

 

That’s not the way it is anymore. The world not only changed it ran right over us. The transgender machine has changed the image of transsexuals away from a medical condition, to one of social engineering. Call yourselves what ever you like, HBS, WBT, “classic” transsexual, simply woman or man in the case of the F2M’s, it simply doesn’t matter to the transgender machine. Anything that does not follow the hive mentality makes you an outsider and an enemy that must be repelled at all cost. Print articles of science, call for peaceful dialog, ask for a middle ground all you want, they will simply take this as a sign of weakness and pull you in and devour your very existence.

 Winston Churchill once said that an appeaser is one that feeds a crocodile in the hope it will eat them last. I think this is fair comment in this war. Just as with any battle, one either learns to adapt and fight with the same tactics, or one simply losses or gives up. Recently, several women have gotten together to take the fight to the enemy, en masse. This is a new tactic that we have learned from the transgender hive. Instead of one or two of us braving the minefield alone, without backup, we now have backup. Just as bees attacked will put out a pheromone to alert their own kind that they are being attacked, we have done the same thing. Now we balance the playing field. Instead of them shouting us down, they are being more cooperative, more willing to listen. They are seeing the numbers now, and some of it is getting through. They are worried that this war will become noticed by the right wing and used against them. They are concerned that their support among the Gays and Lesbians will wane due to the constant fighting, that the LGB will disown them, cast them out to fight their own battles.

 This is not something we take lightly, it is a war for us every bit as real as a shooting war. We are fighting for our identities; we are asking to be left out of their politics, to be set aside from the transgender umbrella that we do not feel we are part of. We know there are transsexuals that identify as transgender and lesbians and gays, and we do not want to speak for them, we simply ask them to set aside their Transexuality from their affiliations to the transgender and GLB. Many say they are the same thing, we don’t see it that way. We see it as three very separate and distinct things.

  • Transsexual; a medical birth condition.
  • Transgender, a social ideology.
  • Lesbianism, a sexual orientation issue.  

 There is no reason in the world that they all need to be lumped into one thing, and all the while they are, the transsexual war of independence will rage and disseminate out like a forest fire.



et cetera